Ok, Singaporeans are the least likely in the world to
experience emotions of any kind. Well, guess what? Filipinos are the most
emotional.
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| Photo grab from www.gallup.com |
According to a survey by www.gallup.com , 60% of our population
feels either positive or negative emotions on a daily basis, not to mention
surges of angst against any pro-RH bill senators, or disapproval of an English-speaking
agitated college student who went bonkers in an MRT Station. We are almost
always affected by what’s happening around us, and we tend feel these emotions
that tend to elicit these reactions that make us feel so ever important - and
moral - and righteous – and proud - and discriminated – and God knows what. We
even have this thing called ‘tampo’,
which until college days, I didn’t know that an English term “sulk”, would have
almost identical (if not equal) meaning, and believed that we Filipinos are the
only ones in the entire world that can feel this. So much for my patriotism.
So, do I feel happy about this survey or do I feel bad? Or
should I feel anything about it at all?
I am working for the same company for more than 5 years now,
and during this period, I’ve met and will continue to meet a lot of people from
different countries, not just the US. I can name the country where each one of
them came from, like I’m reading the back of my hand, even if for this purpose,
I assume we all speak the same language. I can tell which one is British, who’d
probably give the most number of pouted lips in every conversation and would
call potato chips, “crisps”. South Africans would always address you Sir and
begin each sentence with “Alright”. Middle –east people would consider you
their “friend” even if you just met them. An Indian would nod sideways when he
says yes.
Then, a Filipino (make his hair blonde and his accent Californian)
would have been silent, said yes sir/mam occasionally, then come up to me and tell
me that somebody threw him outside the bus during a recently concluded meeting
and that he’s now planning to resign.
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Filipinos are happy with their uncooked fish (kilawin), but then there's
the Japs and their sushi.
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And then you’ll learn that he had no intentions of leaving.
It probably was a joke. Or that he changed his mind. Right.
From my perception of how a Filipino
handles each kind of situation as compared to how other nationalities do it, I have
concluded that most Filipinos are shy
to show their true feelings to the other people they feel that feeling towards
to (get that?). And although shyness is inarguably, an emotion, Filipinos tend
to hide their other emotions under this cloak, that a lot – believe me –
consider as even a positive trait that should be part of the Filipino identity.
I’m not saying that this includes everybody. I’m just saying, most of my fellow
countrymen I have observed are like this. And in reality, this can either be
amplified by a myriad of factors that may include fear, past experiences,
inability to communicate assuredly, or just trying to jive with the rest of the
group. Whatever factor is applicable,
shyness overcomes our other emotions, if not hide them. And given such
predicament, I wonder how this survey would prove true to Filipinos, should my
perception be correct, if only one type of emotion is prominent, among others.
Alright, I may have a big fallacy here because I only tackled one type of situation a Filipino may be in (forgive me for I spend a cycle of 90 days in Kabul, mostly in our villa with officemates). Or that I may have only been thinking of a few experiences with a few people who cannot even be gathered as a sample population size for our residential subdivision, let alone a nation. And you may even say that I’m just describing myself. And maybe you’re right, so I would steer away from this so called “shyness”.
Although, I didn’t say that that’s the only emotion we,
Filipinos, feel.
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| I don't know if I should laugh or shiver. Matutina from pep.ph |
For we also feel anger, as when Terry Hatcher’s character in
the series ‘Desperate Housewives’ seemingly insulted our doctors who “graduated
from some med school in the Philippines”. We feel discriminated, as when Lucy
Liu said she doesn’t want to get dark and look a little Filipino (as if she is
literally belittling Filipinos, geez?!) Sometimes, we feel glorified as a
lovable and uber-talented race, as when Jessica Sanchez, a half-Mexican,
half-Filipina, born in California, and who had never been to the Philippines
until last September, went into the American Idol Finals. Oh, by the way, we
felt cheated as a nation when she didn’t win. And finally, though I can name
some more, some feel proud when we hear the word “Philippines” in an international
newscast, no matter how depressing the news is, even if it’s about some 50
journalist buried alive by some demonic politician who’s trying to cling to his
post, all because name of our country “get mentioned” somehow.
But these feelings are all about other people. These feelings
are all about what’s happening in our environment. These feelings are catalyzed
by news, hearsays, and more often than not, bandwagons. And sometimes, we react
in the most outrageous way imaginable. But what about the emotions that we feel when we did something that is good, like
if we, ourselves, and not some half-Pinoys, contribute to the good of the
country, to our family, or even to our girlfriends? How do we show it? What
about the emotions that we need to invoke when we think our bosses are rigging
the company’s books, or if one of our friends is causing trouble to the
community? Do we even care? What about asking for that position which you feel
confident that you are more than qualified to take? Do you even have the courage to mention it between the lines?
Some may answer “yes”, or may not have any qualms about
speaking up. But I bet, a lot would really just shut up and carry on with
whatever they were doing. And though this silence would mean work time or study
time not wasted, other people, believe me, would view it as a result of
shyness. We, Filipinos, are not complacent but, we are also not aggressive.
And the sad part is – we often dwell into emotions that
simply do not do us any good. And we
tend to depart from those emotions that will help us grow. Our reactions against
our aggressors are posted not on bulletins nor formal letters, but on Facebook and
Twitter – which, is the same venue where we post our rants against that #amalayer
girl whose breakdown was, really, none of our fucking business! Unbelievable!
So the question: Are the Filipinos over –acting? My answer: In a very wrong way.
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